by Bob Olson, BestPsychicDirectory.com, BestPsychicMediums.com & AfterlifeTV.com
I had a reading with a psychic medium but my loved one didn’t come through—what does this mean?
Psychic mediums can’t summon whatever spirit they choose, so they have no control over who shows up for a reading. But ninety-five percent of the time, at least, the loved one with whom you hope to communicate will come through. But what does it mean when those five or so percent don’t show up? This is one of those situations where there is more than one reason.
If you have never been to a medium before, and you might never go again, spirits only have this single opportunity to communicate to you. Consequently, those in spirit, including your spirit guides, are going to get the most important messages through first.
Spirit Know The Most Imperative Messages To Deliver
For example, even though you might want to communicate with your recently deceased mother, it might be more important that your friend comes through to tell you he doesn’t blame you for the car accident that killed him when you were teenagers, even though you were driving. Or it might be more important that your stepfather comes through to request your forgiveness for being abusive. Or it might even be more important that your neighbor’s grandmother comes through asking you to tell her daughter (your neighbor) that her grandmother is alive in spirit.
Not that we have any choice, but we have to trust that spirit knows what’s most imperative. While some people aren’t pleased about paying for a reading where their neighbor, friend or relative gets a message, spirit knows that those people are not ever going to get a reading, so they employ you as their messenger to deliver an important message. Feel good about this opportunity to help another and know that you can always get another reading. What spirit is saying in this situation is that they know that you are strong enough to work through your grief without a message on this particular day, and/or they know that you’ll be back for another reading in the future.
It’s a rare occurrence when you get more messages for another than you get for yourself. This generally only happens at psychic medium demonstrations (live events) when the medium is only giving ten-minute readings to audience members. And, even then, this doesn’t happen frequently.
This is one reason I recommend people get a one-hour reading versus a half-hour reading. Obviously, if you have more time, it’s more likely that you’ll hear from the person that you want, because the most important messages can come first and there’ll still be time for the loved one you’re seeking to come through if he or she didn’t show up immediately.
Some people believe that a loved one might not show up because they are still in transition after their return to the afterlife. As I’ve discussed earlier in this book, I don’t agree with this belief. Even from a practical standpoint, it doesn’t make sense because time doesn’t exist in the spirit world. But I’ve also seen evidence that supports this isn’t true.
The people who believe that our loved ones in spirit need time to reintegrate to the afterlife feel that this transition period is especially true for people who committed suicide, murder and other crimes. Yet I’ve seen people who have committed suicide, murder and other crimes who have shown up hours or days after their death. So if these people don’t need a transition, why would anyone else, such as your kindhearted grandmother?
It’s uncommon that the loved one you most want to hear from doesn’t show up at your reading, so there is always a good reason for it. Sometimes it has more to do with what’s going on with you than it does them. Your physical and mental state of mind can affect your reading. I know a woman who called a psychic medium once in order to make a reading appointment. When the psychic medium answered the phone, her deceased mother immediately made contact and began giving the medium messages. The connection was strong and the messages were loud and clear. However, the medium didn’t have time to give the reading at that moment, so they made the appointment for the next day.
The woman was so nervous about the reading she booked for the next day that she drank a bottle of wine that night. The next day, when she showed up at the reading with a hangover, the psychic medium was negatively affected by the woman’s depleted energy. He said that while the woman’s mother was coming through, the connection was foggy and faint—a distinct contrast from the day before. As a result, the reading was less than satisfying for the woman, but she was entirely responsible.
Spirit Communication Is A Three-way Conversation
Spirit communication through a psychic medium is a three-way conversation. All three parties—the sitter (client), the medium and the spirit—affect the reading. If the sitter (client) or the psychic medium arrive with their energy low, the reading won’t be as good as when everyone’s energy is high.
Be conscious not to negatively affect your energy before a reading with alcohol, drugs, stress, an argument, lack of sleep, too much exercise or too much stuff weighing on your mind. You’re expected to be nervous if this is your first reading, but nervous energy isn’t necessarily low energy unless you try to suppress it with drugs or alcohol. Relax. Just allow your nervousness to play out as enthusiasm, and be optimistic and playful during the reading. The spirit-to-medium connection will likely be better as a result.
At the same time, don’t book a reading if your grief is overwhelming you such that you are in a desperate state of mind. Desperation is a lower-energy emotion. If you’re feeling fraught with despair or overly anxious about contacting your departed loved one, it might be best to see a grief counselor first. If your loved ones in spirit don’t think you can manage the messages in a healthy manner, they might choose to not come through anyway.
Having covered all these bases, it’s also true that spirit messengers have bad days, just like the rest of us. They too get stressed, depressed and tired. If the reader was able to get clear messages from one or two relatives but not from the person in spirit whom you wanted, then this is probably not the issue. But if none of the messages seemed accurate, or there were some hits but a lot more misses, it’s possible that the medium was having an off day. In this case, let them know early in the reading so that you can stop the reading and book it for another day.
You Will Have Other Opportunities To Connect
Always keep in mind that regardless of what happens or doesn’t happen at your first reading, there will be future opportunities for other readings. Too many people put so much pressure on the reading as if they’ll never get another chance to connect with their loved ones. First, there will be other chances. It’s merely a matter of priorities. If you want to connect with your loved one in spirit, you’ll have another opportunity. And, second, you are always connected to your loved ones. You don’t need to have a psychic medium present in order to do that. Sometimes you just need to trust in your own ability to recognize the signs that are all around you; that is, you need to be your own medium.
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